"Gratitude unlocks the fulness of life." - Melody Beattie
When Life gives you lemons it's so very hard to be grateful that you already have water, sugar, honey, lemon zest for homemade essential oils... you get the point. I spent years fighting for the life I wanted and thought I needed. I took corporate jobs that I was great at, but never fully loved, and still lost my sense of self when I was overlooked, under-appreciated, and disenfranchised. I kept asking God why He had forsaken me. Where was His Love & Protection in this season? What more did He want from me? Why no matter what I did or what path I walked was I served lemons instead of milk and honey?
In these tough seasons of seeming abandonment, our friends are little help. They do what they can. They listen to us vent. They offer solutions when we're not ready to hear them (because we're too busy wallowing). Then, eventually, they let us go because they're at their ropes' ends and simply can't be around us any longer. So we blame God for our friends abandoning us as well. In short, we spiral out. We descend into depression and focus on all the things we don't have and can't seem to get while filling up on envy as we watch others gain more and revel in their own happiness. Why not us? When is our turn? How do we get out of the rut?
Gratitude. Thanks. Acknowledgment and recognition. Seriously. Focusing on what we want or don't have or have lost is no way to change our current situation. It keeps us in the wallowing phase of things. It causes us to feel less than our worth. It makes us blame God, our friends, our family, and-- if we're evolved enough-- ourselves for a lacking we perceive to exist. But what if there is no such thing as a lacking? What if we have exactly what we need, when we need it, always? What if God never forsakes us or leaves us without and the only thing standing in our way is our mindset? What if we stopped focusing on what we want and instead truly looked at what we already have with appreciation and fulfillment and asked ourselves "how can these things better serve me?" or better still "How can I better serve these things I have been given?"
My life transformed in ways I can't describe in one blog when I started listing FIVE things a day I was grateful for. Just five! Suddenly I realized how many resources were in my life. How much power I had access to. How many friends, family, and acquaintances were here for my betterment and higher self. I saw God's hand in places I hadn't even known work was being done on my behalf. I became elated and overwhelmed with love and a new understanding of my worth. What a relief! And that was just the first step on a beautiful journey of gratitude and self-love. Five things a day.
So what five things are you grateful for? List them just for today. And then try again tomorrow and as many days as you can. Give thanks with a grateful heart and unlock your deepest, fullest desires!
Know Thyself; Love Thyself; Heal Thyself. Amen.